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Mitch Albom, the writer of the novel Tuesdays with Morrie, uses his flashbacks to bring out his memories and his deep connections in the story. Throughout the movie Tuesdays with Morrie the main focus was on life. Many people might see this movie about Morrie’s story of death, but it’s mainly focused on the story of life. Morrie talks very little about meeting his own death, but he main focus is on living at the end of his life. Mitch writes, “Now here we were…. Dying man talks to living man, tells him what he should know. (Albom 133) The movie is about the relationship between Mitch and his dying professor. In the heart of this narrative is the fourteen Tuesdays that is significant reunion of Mitch and his professor after a period of sixteen years. Necessarily, the Tuesdays represent the days that Mitch use to visit the weak professor after being diagnosed by the terminal ASL. Thus, the days were complete with with lessons about life. The movie focuses on the final days of Morrie Schwartz and how those tedious days transformed the life of Mitch through the lessons. Onward, Mitch learned a lot from his professor throughout his school days. In order to learn and inherit the lessons that he learnt from Morrie he goes back in his past through using his flashbacks, “….we’ve had thirty-five years of friendship. You don’t need speech or hearing to feel that.” Mitch’s flashback was not only used to take the audience back to the background of the story but also exposes the audience to the true connection of Mitch’s friendship and experience. Throughout the fourteen weeks of Morrie’s life, Mitch gets to understand the wisdom and lessons of life. Morrie shares a meaningful relationship with Mitch that people would not be ever close to understand and these great lessons that Mitch learned will be carried and practiced throughout his life.Throughout the movie Morrie states a lot of quotes but there were some that really stuck out to me. “Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.” (Albom 82). Morrie begins to talk about the sensitive topic about death. He feels that people refuse to believe in death, and that they will one day die, and therefore, do not live as fully as they should or would like to live and have so many regrets as we become closer to getting older. Once we learn and accept the fact that this life we are living is going to end one day, we learn to live life without regret. Morrie frequently repeats this statement throughout the movie and emphasizes the importance of how helpful it is to accept death. Not only accept it but also how it would benefit our lives. As human, we need to open up our eyes and appreciate the smaller things, more genuine things and knowing that life will end one day. “The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in” (Albom 52). Morrie goes on to tell Mitch  that the most important thing that he has learned about life and from his disease is learning how to give and receive love. Throughout the movie, Morris explains how important it is to give out and show compassion. He believed that people feel as if they do not deserve love and if they let that love in, they become too “soft.” Morrie then goes on and explain that he lacked love throughout his childhood. When Morrie’s mother passed he was a very young boy at the time and his father often put work first and was not interested in showing affection towards his son’s. When his stepmother stepped into the picture she provided them with motherly love. That love that no one can feel, that love that will make you feel like everything is okay and that love that can never be taken away. That love that Morrie and his brother was long deprived from. Morrie realized how important it is to be compassionate towards others and used that lesson for the rest of his life. Not everyone has been able to receive and feel that motherly love, but it always someone out their special who is able to fill that hole if accept them in. “Be compassionate. And take responsibility for each other. If we only learned those lessons, this world would be a better place. (Albom 163). This is one of Morrie’s final lessons to Mitch. Morrie was teaching the lesson on compassion, saying that we all have to look out for each other in this world. Never leave anybody in trouble. Do whatever you can to help someone in need. The smallest thing can make this world a better place. However,  the person you help can pass it on and in return it will help someone else. If everyone had a helping hand to another person, Morrie believed, this world would be such a better place. “As long as we can love each other, and remember the feeling of love we had, we can die without ever really going away. All the love you created is still there. All the memories are still there. You live on- in the hearts of everyone you have touched and nurtured while you were here.” (pg 174). Morrie believed that love means immorality. Even when your physical body is gone, when people can remember that love you gave them, how they felt it, and how you will still be there in that form of love. Morrie believed that we will all live in our hearts and memories. As people we need to give out as much love as we can possibly give as long as we are on this earth. As a human being, we would feel good at the time, and people will remember your form of love after you are gone. “Death ends a life, not a relationship.” (Albom 174). Morrie says that as long as we can love each other and remember that feeling of love, as humans we can die without ever going away because of the love we created we were living on Earth. This also goes deep into and expands on Morrie’s perception of always giving out love and compassion because if we are able to form love relationships and friendships while we are on Earth, not only will we love longer but when we die our love will remain in hearts of those we gave love to. A great example is when Mitch has a deep conversation with Morrie and feels very comfortable about this one conversation because Morrie and Mitch created love and compassion for each other during the Tuesday’s that they were together. Their relationship will forever stay in their hearts. Understanding the relationship that we have is the biggest thing we must take in. We never know what the universe will hold and we need to appreciate every person that his been in our lives. “Forgive yourself before you die. The forgive others.” (Albom 164). On a particular Tuesday Morrie and Mitch discuss forgiveness. Morrie explains that their is no point in holding and king of anger or vengeance towards another. He admits that he has had some pride in his life and regrets it. He began to tell Mitch a story about an old friend named Norman with whom he spent so much time with. After Norman moved to Chicago with his wife, Morrie and his own wife began to have serious problems. Norman began to live his own life in Chicago and became very distant with Morrie, which hurt his feelings very deeply. Norman tried to apologize for his distant behavior but Morrie would not forgive him. When Norman passed, Morrie has so much regret in his heart for not accepting his apology. Morrie then explains that he felt that we need to not forgive others but to forgive ourselves for the things that we should have done. He explains that we cannot get stuck on our own regrets of what should and could of happened. Morrie urges to make peace with not just those around us but with ourselves, as well. “The culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves. ANd you have to be strong enough to say if the culture doesn’t work, don’t buy it.” ( Albom 42).  This quote illustrates; popular culture vs. self-created values. Morrie stated that we should reject the media’s values and develop our own value and culture. He felt like the media gives our mind the illusion of greed and violence. Morrie developed his own thought process and culture long before he was diagnosed. He appreciated every little thing such as reading books, long walks with friends, holding discussions and keeping in touch with family, friends and students. He never wanted to waste his time watching television, but instead enjoy the outside and human activities. Morrie subjected that if we rejected the media values on our culture that it will lead to a more meaningful life and live life without regret. “So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they’re chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.” (Albom 43). Morrie told Mitch this quote once, at the beginning of the movie when he was talking about his job and lifestyle. The audience could all determine that Mitch was a very busy man from his career and to his success as a sports reporter. He mostly chased money, success and materialistic things. He began to tell the audience that he remembered Morrie told him that people will get caught being lead into a meaningless life and they become to involved in their job and money and fall into the media mindset on what our culture should look like. Morrie felt as if that people believe “things” are so important and are too busy chasing these things that their life will begin to pass them right before their eyes. He says that if we want to create a meaningful life we must show love and compassion toward others. It is a way that we can create our own meaning of life we will not waste our lives chasing false representation of life and frivolous dreams.        At the end of the movie Mitch reflects on how his final session with Morrie altered his mindset. He wished he could have reached back sooner back and awoken his foolish mind and reunited with his old professor a long time ago. But he finds comfort in Morrie’s lessons that changed his thinking. Morrie taught another man on the importance of life, love, happiness and forgiveness. Morrie did only help Mitch on his daily life but also his love life. It shows Mitch how he puts work before his love life which almost went down it shambles, but with the Morrie’s wisdom it helped Mitch work back into his love life and search for the important things in life. Not only did this make Mitch think but it leaves the audience something to think about. We have a busy life and put a lot of unimportant things in front of us. We lose interest in our family and in our on lives. We get to caught up into what people think and what the media would view ourselves. Like Morrie stated that if we lose interest in what we think the media should make of us and focus on our own selves we find the importance of life. Life is what you make it, and it should not be full of regrets.